Dear Mojo,
“You don’t know what its like…to love somebody…the way I love you” My life reflects so much truth in this Bee Gees song. When you grow up deprived of love, as an adult you want to give so much to the one you that shows you any love at all.
Sometimes your love is too good for that one person. But, because of that yearning, you continue and keep giving love to the wrong person and not getting what you want back in return. What are good ways to release that love to someone that WILL know how to love you like you love them???
Too Much Love to Give
Atlanta, Georgia
Dear love,
It sounds more like “Looking for love in all the wrong places.” If you are feeling at all like the BeeGees song – dump that boy and move on. If you are not getting what you want and continue to do the same behavior with no relief – it is time to move on.
First of all, I am very happy to hear you have love inside of you to give. Many people who grow up deprived of love shut off and simply do not even try. Therefore, you have a great deal going for you. Any type of deprivation or abandonment from childhood often requires professional therapy. I do recommend this.
In the meantime, I do believe that we all attract what we are inside. That said, since you say you have so much love to give as if it were a hot potato and ready to give away for it to mean something. The fact is, learning to turn that love towards yourself and believe you truly deserve it is the only way to find happiness and conquer loneliness. A truly healthy relationship can only come after you do the work to build a base within yourself. Once you have your base strong and your heart comes from a place of love, you will find that mate who will respect and give you what you need. But you must do the work inside yourself first.
Once you find the love within yourself you will find someone who knows what it likes to love somebody the way you love them. And please do not waste that energy on someone who is not returning the things you need and deserve. Make an appointment with a therapist as soon as possible and let me know how it goes!
All my best,
Dear Mojo
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