Hey Dear Mojo!
Feeling a little down in the blue today. i am supposed to bo positive and “sell” a new JOB description for myself but my heart is just not into it. What is it when the mind knows what is right but your actions are different?? I don’t feel like I should be alone right now, whether it is in my office, laying on the couch, driving my car. I am an emotional wreck. I am overpowered by guilt and uncontrolable feelings. Where do I turn???
Single & Lonely and wanting more out of life!
Dear emotional wreck,
The first thing that comes to mind is our own ability to learn to soothe ourselves in times of everyday challenges not to mention chaos and loneliness. Building a base within yourself is first and foremost the number one task you must begin to build. Sometimes the blues are necessary if short lived but when it becomes a blockade to everyday tasks there may be a medical condition to address or you may try the following mojo recommendations.
Ask yourself “What messages am I telling myself?” and “Why am I choosing to believe self defeating thoughts?” The key to true happiness is all internal. The great news is the only thing we have control of are our thoughts. The other fabulous news is NOTHING happens until a thought provokes it – think about that – no emotion, no action, no feeling. So if you have control over your thoughts – you have control over where you are emotionally. Therefore, are you being kind and loving to yourself? Try to write down all of the messages you are giving yourself. Whenever you give yourself negative or demeaning feedback “Flag” yourself . Like a flag on the football field or a shock collar to a dog who has run out of bounds, find a “flag” to shock that message to yourself and “flip the script.” I recommend you visualize a pretend flag flying through the air to stop yourself and re-think that thought.
Also, concentrate on daily gratitude. There is nothing more powerful than being aware of all of the things we take for granted every day. Taking a mindful inventory of the things you do have to be grateful for daily will be a certain step in the right direction.
Now take it a step further and enhance those things which you are grateful for. Get into a very comfortable place. Close your eyes and truly allow yourself to picture all the things you are grateful for and start to build your fantasy life, your new life far away from the worries of today. Feel what that feels like, smell the scent of the future success you deserve, stay there and fill in the details as long as you can. Repeat daily! Hold on to this dream.
Let me know how it goes for you in the next few days. I would love to hear from you. Anyone have other exercises to kick the blues?
All my best,
Dear Mojo
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