Dear Mojo,
I have three children who are now finally all in school. I thought I would have an abundance of free time but that is not how it has worked out. Instead, each day after work I feel like I go to my second job – taxi then borderline drill sergeant directing homework, dinner, bath time, bed time then I am truly exhausted. I love my children with all of my heart but feel so lonely as my husband travels and I never get to see or even have a conversation with my girlfriends. Help!
Lonely for girlfriends,
Atlanta, GA
Dear Lonely,
Sounds like you may also miss the “you” that they bring out. The one without the frazzled schedule, endless requests and no time for your self. Motherhood is much more rewarding when you give yourself a break and stay connected to your “mojo sister’s”.
Just as you give your professional schedule or children’s soccer practice priority – you must take your free time that seriously. This can be your time to “exhale” and defuse. It is necessary for you to constantly fine tune your “base” to give the best to your family. Re-charging your batteries with free time is an essential practice that is as important as the air you breathe. One reader I know hosts “Wino Wednesday” at her house. After the kids are in bed – everyone arrives bearing a treat and the fun begins.
Once you establish the evening you choose to be “girls night” – it will be an easily accepted part of the schedule for everyone else – but time you can look forward to all week.
All my best,
Dear Mojo
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