Dear Mojo,
Help, I am completely losing my mind. As a new mother, I find that it is Ground Hogs day over and over. I feel so lonely and that life is passing me by. I was laid off a few months ago and I am desperately trying to find a new job in between feedings, changes and cleaning. I adore my six month old but feel I am shut off from the world and burnt out. I want to be the best for her and my family but feel like I am coming apart at the seams.
Frazzled and Fading Mom
Atlanta, Ga
Dear Frazzled and Fading Mom,
You are not alone. Many new parents struggle to find balance in their lives to be the best for their children but not lose their own identity. Parenting is a very tough job – the basic fact that you are feeling controlled by a daily repetitive schedule means you are doing it right – children need and thrive on a schedule. The trick is to make part of that schedule for you. “Me” time is essential for your health to be the best you can be for your family. Even if it is a walk by yourself for twenty minutes – without this break, burn out is inevitable for anyone.
There is an excellent site for Mom’s called BabyCenter.com. It has an abundance of resources for new Mom’s at any stage. Check out this recent post about the balancing act of motherhood Balancing Acts: Stop Second Guessing Yourself. This post was extremely informative and has so much to offer new mother’s. Scroll down to Baby’s First Year and learn that you are not alone.
Once you have that “me” time scheduled and you are ready for the next step, come back to Dear Mojo and let’s spice that it up mojo style!
All my best,
Dear Mojo
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