Dear Mojo,
I’m in a real funk and I feel like I keep getting deeper and deeper in this bucket of despair. I know you’ve been there too. But, I’ve never really let circumstances get me down, not this down.
I never knew what depression was until Brody had his accident. So I have to be grateful that I’ve not been afflicted with any real mental health issues in my life time.
Many things are happening with my life, but none of it seems to be positive or forward moving — that’s my opinion, people beg to differ with me. But I’m feeling really sad, really blue, really lonely and I can’t shake it.
For the last two years, when I’ve needed to re-focus, re-charge, and re-direct I’ve taken a trip to a warm place with sand, sun, and ocean …. written it all out of my system, would read until my eye balls were ready to fall out and listened to music to transport me. The sun would energize and relax me simultaneously and the ocean serves a dual purpose as well the first to throw out my questions and then wait for a response and the second to provide me with a different type of energy that can only come from moving water. I usually don’t mind traveling alone, but I just don’t want to this time.
So, you have any words of wisdom, advice, whatever?. Please send me your thoughts.
Desperate for a break,
New York
Dear New York,
Thoughts? It sounds like a change of scenery would not only do you a world of good but also the people around you could greatly benefit. Anytime in life when we are called to handle great tragedies, like a life changing accident to a loved one, we often forget to take care of ourselves. Much like the airlines instruct us, in case of an emergency, to take the oxygen to our own selves first then loved ones – you must use this same survival tactic. It sounds like you have no oxygen left but everyone else is breathing well. Take that trip – if you don’t want to go it alone then try a travel group. Women Traveling Together at http://www.women-traveling.com/ or http://www.sistersonthefly.com/ Give yourself the gift of new vision, intelligent conversation and reflection to see yourself through this difficult time. May the force be with you!
All my best,
Dear Mojo
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