Dear Mojo,
As a girl of a certain age, I find myself back in the dating game after many years of marriage. While I have been focusing a lot of my time & energy getting my life, mind & career back on track there’s just no denying those primal urges… So, ever so tentatively, I’ve been dipping my toes in the pool of available men.
I’ve found that, while the odds are good, the goods are indeed odd. The rules are clearly different at this stage of life from the last time I was single. I have healthy sense of adventure and am fairly easy going.
My question to you, Dear Mojo, is twofold, 1. What are your top 3 rules of dating in Mojo fashion and, 2. What are your top 3 places to meet guys with a little Mojo of their own?
Confused & eagerly awaiting your reply.
Santa Fe, NM
Dear confused and eager,
It sounds like you are on the right tract. No matter your age, The Mojo Rules for attracting a partner in the GAME of life are super clear – do not try! Use that ENERGY to develop your true rockin’ SELF. Start with a makeover from the INSIDE OUT to find your true mojo. Here are some Mojo Jewels for a boost to point you on the right path:
Jewel #1 Home is base. “Home” in this case is not a dwelling – it is within you. Start by developing who you are: take inventory – purge the nonsense. develop a new “herstory” bs free and GET REAL mojo sista.
Jewel #2 Be yourself. If you like pina coloda’s, getting caught in the rain and making love at midnight GO FOR IT! and for Pete’s sake don’t let anyone in your life who doesn’t enjoy those same things!
Jewel #3 Know what you want in life and be enagaged in it. When you commit to a cause, hobby or passion – you will glow like a neon light that attracts mosquitoes in the southern summer. That type of confidence is simply irresistible.
Now that got that straight – where to meet the one without trying? Anywhere you are directing your mojo energy and passion towards: chainsaw ice art lessons, rollerblading to save the whales, high tea at the Ritz (must be on a religious basis for return clientele points) or volunteering sleeplessly to find auction items for your favorite ice cream addiction charity! PASSION with action equals ATTRACTION!
The single most sexiest trait anyone can own is confidence! Grrrrrr…now that’s some neon mojo!
All my best,
Dear Mojo
ask@dearmojo.com
Dear Mojo, great post and insightful tips to live and shine by!
Amen sista! The hardest part is being real with yourself.
Yeah = u r sooooo freakin right on! Harder than wisdom teetheses removal. But I lived thru that! So maybe I can take it!