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The Mojo Crew is headed to Talladega for a weekend of people watching, bad beer, corn dogs and oh also the race! We’ll be tail gating in the in zone! Tune in for tales and pics! All my best, Dear Mojo Mojo Master Monday: Jennifer Love Hewitt’s The Day I Shot Cupid is packed with uber Mojo jewels! She proclaims that “bitch” is not a bad word and once she found her’s she agrees that “every woman should have a little “bitch” in her back pocket” on Joy Behar today. Dear Mojo has always advised to keep a little bitch or ‘edge’ close to your heart – it empowers you, keeps you assertive and capable! Love battles Cupid in her new book with true Mojo! Hyperion, her publisher notes: For any woman who has ever bought a self-help book and wondered why she bothered. (P.S. Now that I know he’s just not that into me, where do I go from there? Yeah, thanks for that advice.) Hewitt is a self-proclaimed “love-aholic” and hopeless romantic (her middle name is Love, after all!). She has been lucky and unlucky in love, and lived to tell—and she’s done it all in the spotlight. Much has been written about her love life—some true, most made up to sell magazines. Now Hewitt shares the real story of what she’s learned navigating the dangerous dating waters. In The Day I Shot Cupid, Hewitt offers her hard-won wisdom and tells us how to embrace love with both feet on the ground. First, we have to shoot Cupid. We have to believe that happily-ever-after is hard work—it’s not all flowers and symphonies and floating hearts. Wise and wry and refreshingly honest, Hewitt talks about how to pick the right guy and how to know when to let the wrong ones go free, and she offers some surprising truths about the opposite sex. From twenty things to do after a breakup, to ten things to do before a date, to the perils of text flirting (Note: You are waiting. By the phone. For his response.), Hewitt uses stories and dating secrets to illustrate the idiotic, romantic, crazy, depressing, hilarious, awkward, glorious moments we all experience in relationships. Funny, quirky, and empowering, The Day I Shot Cupid deserves a place on every woman’s nightstand, bookshelf, or coffee table, or tucked inside her oversized designer handbag. Hewitt celebrated in celebrity style with Karma Champagne. What a true Mojo Master! All my best, Dear Mojo,
I always thought taking the first step and getting the divorce and being single would solve alot of issues. I have found that it is scary and indifferent to be out there by yourself. I guess I always though of myself as alone because my ex was not a “participator”. HOWEVER, there is some comfort to having someone there. This is NOT what I want. I want a partner for life!!! Help me through your experience and tell me how to attract that please. Single Mother Syndrome, Dear Mojo Mother, Attracting a new mate has many facets. The first is to get real with yourself and “clean up” any disturbances you may have in your life that may be blocking your window of opportunity. One of the most important principles or “mojo jewels” is to be “base”. It seems your base or foundation may be shaky and looking to others for some stabilization is just not how it works my dear. You must find strength, balance and a sincere foundation within yourself before you can pass go! Begin the mojo makeover from the inside out immediately. Purge out the old will allow new energy to engulf you. This is a process that requires a great deal of conscience thoughts and smart choices. Are you worth it? Are your children worth you being a strong base so that they can grow into capable mojo sisters? The choice is yours but you are begging for a companion that will never fill that void. Try this ritual: it works if you put your heart in it! Dig deep within yourself to identify old habits, people and memories that are haunting you. Write each one on a sheet of paper then burn them in a fireplace one by one to let go and “purge”! Then you can share the whole you open and ready for someone to “enhance” your life not drain it!. Keep me posted and email me for mojo coaching! All my best, Dear Mojo, I have three children who are now finally all in school. I thought I would have an abundance of free time but that is not how it has worked out. Instead, each day after work I feel like I go to my second job – taxi then borderline drill sergeant directing homework, dinner, bath time, bed time then I am truly exhausted. I love my children with all of my heart but feel so lonely as my husband travels and I never get to see or even have a conversation with my girlfriends. Help! Lonely for girlfriends, Dear Lonely, Sounds like you may also miss the “you” that they bring out. The one without the frazzled schedule, endless requests and no time for your self. Motherhood is much more rewarding when you give yourself a break and stay connected to your “mojo sister’s”. Just as you give your professional schedule or children’s soccer practice priority – you must take your free time that seriously. This can be your time to “exhale” and defuse. It is necessary for you to constantly fine tune your “base” to give the best to your family. Re-charging your batteries with free time is an essential practice that is as important as the air you breathe. One reader I know hosts “Wino Wednesday” at her house. After the kids are in bed – everyone arrives bearing a treat and the fun begins. Once you establish the evening you choose to be “girls night” – it will be an easily accepted part of the schedule for everyone else – but time you can look forward to all week. All my best, Dear Mojo, I am at my wits end trying to balance work at the office, at home and being a Mom. I have a 10 year old daughter and my son is 12 years old. They are both very dear to my heart but I am losing myself. Where do I fit in? I feel guilty making plans without the children so I over schedule myself for their lives. This simply cannot continue – desperate for a break or I may fade away. Desperate for a break, Dear Desperate, First of all, kudos to you for making your children a priority and thinking this through before you make hasty decisions. The fact is being a newly single Mom requires many hats. Getting your Mojo Hat on is extremely necessary – you just have to make sure it is in the schedule. As a single mother, my daughter and I worked it out this way: we scheduled “family” night and “friend” night on a weekly basis. That way Continue reading mom desperate for a break Dear Mojo, My daughter is being bullied by a catty kid at school. She continually comes home from school in tears and begs me to help. What can I do? It is getting to the point that she does not want to go to school. Bullied, Dear Bullied, First of all, bullying is a very serious epidemic and should not be taken lightly. There are many resources to assist you. Have you spoken with the counselor at school? Are the teachers aware of this issue – if not make that call right away. Get the school officials involved ASAP and make a plan to overcome this issue immediately. Another great recourse is a site called Kids Health – take a look at this very informative article for Helping Kids Deal With Bullies. Once you have a plan with the school officials begin at home by building a strong base within yourself for your daughter. When children have a strong base at home they are more likely to survive the perils of childhood. All my best, Dear Mojo, I am at my wits end. I have a boss, who has been a dear friend of mine for years, who is driving me crazy. He is completely unstructured, runs hot and cold and I never know where I stand with him. I am continually given instructions that I believe are off the top of his head while he is distracted by other things. Then when I follow through with those stated instructions, he yells at me and says he changed his mind. Worried and Crazed Dear Worried, It sounds like your boss is breaking one of the most important Mojo Jewels to live by: Never go on your first reaction. Did you know our first reaction is always purely emotional? The problem with that is, when provoked, your emotions have no calendar in the brain bank. Therefore when a situation arises that makes you angry there are thousands of memories that flow to the surface to fuel a reaction that may not be merited for the current situation. I often have to get myself to my 12th reaction before it makes sense to me. That’s a lot of emotions to lasso before my mouth opens. Try to make an appointment with your boss away from the office if possible. It sounds like he is taking advantage of your friendship and mistreating you. Owning a business today is extremely stressful. You may want to ask him to find another punching bag or you will find another job. But of course, make sure you have one set up already with a boss who can treat employees fairly. All my best, |
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